” explaining how proper dating has been replaced with casual hook ups and ill-defined relationships. And when I say I’ve learnt this the hard way, I mean it.Online dating, and our ability to be in constant contact with everyone we know via text, email or social media make us unwilling to commit to one person, and more likely to want to hedge our bets. In an article I wrote earlier this year about modern dating, I used the example of a man I’d been sleeping with for over a year, who got cross when I referred to him as my boyfriend.
[Read: How to impress a guy in 13 oh-so-awesome ways! [Read: How to make a guy like you by making him and other guys want you] But then again, a girl’s appearances may give her a second glance, and her attractiveness may draw a guy to her for a date or two.In this world (the 21 year old college-girl one), dates are an after you’re in a committed relationship type of hang out as opposed to a preliminary to one. Meeting someone in class is unlikely because if there is a pause in the lecture, everyone’s head is glued to his/her phone.The road to being “official” is a long one, or around three months I will argue. Once you are official, your first fight will probably be over the very same selfies that brought you together. Men won’t approach you in places like coffee shops because whatever is on their computer screen is far more interesting than you are.One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.