Money, kids, housing and other practical issues need attention especially during separation.Stop all unnecessary activity and spending for a few months or longer. Whatever you have to do to stabilize the home, do it on a temporary basis.
Divorce is hard enough, but separation has its own unique pain because there's no finality, no apparent moving back or forward. The first thing to do is stay open to reconciliation, if possible. Many couples make a sincere effort to get back together, but their core problems have not been addressed.Karen Bigman (pictured) calls herself a 'divorce concierge'.As a certified divorce coach, she can help you with everything from issues around co-parenting and dealing with your ex to finding the right ‘divorce team’ of financial experts and lawyers. ”’Divorce is messy and overwhelming, she says, because there are so many important decisions to make in a short time, to say nothing of the emotional roller coaster.But she admits she could barely function for a full year after the split.Her divorce recovery classes helped her realize everyone bounces back at their own pace.